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General Question #1
I came out a few years ago when my wife caught me in a gay chat room. Although we’re not married any longer we’re still friends. I’ve always known I was gay but I was always embarrassed about it. Now that everyone knows I have gotten on with my life. I date men, I go to gay events and I keep track of gay politics but I don’t get gay pride. I know there are a lot of people out there that don’t like us so what are we proud of and how do I get pride?
Posted Questions / Answers
Below are a list of general coming out questions that other gay men have had.
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Although I’ve been out awhile sometimes I feel like a failure. That somehow being gay makes me an inadequate person. I think it comes from my upbringing. Twelve years of Catholic school where they taught me that being gay is a horrible thing. Some of that brainwashing is still in my mind; it still lingers back there. In college it was the same way. Even now as a grown up and Executive Director of a major non-profit I still feel like people don’t see me as good enough. I've been working on this for a few years now. Sometimes it gets me down. How can I get past this? Is this common among gay men?
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I have a new friend in my life. We met at jobs we had awhile back but lately we’ve been getting together for dinner from time to time. The problem I have with this is that he’s a lot more gay obvious, or like my father says, “nelly,” than most of my friends. I have this overwhelming feeling that everyone in the restaurant knows we’re gay. I usually prefer to hang with guys that are more masculine. I don’t want to run into people I know. How can I handle this without hurting his feelings?
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On Friday my roommate Tim told me that his parent’s will be visiting and staying in his room for a week. He also said that he’s staying with friends instead of sleeping on the couch. This means I get to stay with his parents. He’s asked me to not come out to them and to hide any of our gay identifiable stuff. I don’t want to go into the closet for a week just because he’s afraid of his parent’s finding out he’s gay. We are best friends, how can I handle this?
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I just heard that something called National Coming Out Day is coming up soon. Do you know anything about it?
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Do you think it is important for me to come out to my doctor?
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I want to travel to a warmer climate this winter. I’ve never stayed at a gay resort. Do you think it’s a good idea and what warm US cities would you suggest?
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I’m 37 and just coming out. I know I’m a late bloomer but did I miss the boat? It seems as though everyone is young and buff and I’m not. Every club I go to is filled with guys in their 20’s. The crowds generally remind me of my sister’s kids and that’s too young for me. Are there other places for me to meet men closer to my age?
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I came upon a gay publication at a lunch counter in Lambertville while killing time before a business meeting. Although I’m not out at all, I definitely know I’m gay. Do you think I’m better off coming out or staying in the closet and continue to have some male friends aside from everyone else I know. I don’t date women and I don’t plan to marry one but I’m wondering if you think I’m better off coming out and just continue in the closet till I get caught?
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I find it very hard to develop friendships and date at the same time. I’m 23 and I’ve been out for three years. It’s time to find some people who will stick around. Every date feels like an interview for a long-term relationship. One false move on the date means I will never see the guy again. I tell them that if they’re not attracted to me then we can see if we get along and become friends. It doesn’t seem to happen. How do I meet men for dating while also meet men for friendships? If I never meet Mr. Right I want to know I have some gay friends in my life. What’s a nice gay boy to do?